Observations & Comments on Life

Oddly, or perhaps not, I don’t usually don’t feel inclined to write about my depression and/or anxiety until I feel I am being swallowed up by them, or at least being nibbled at. And now is no different. A week into September and I could feel them creeping back into my consciousness. Nothing, absolutely nothing had changed, except the month and very shortly thereafter, the season. Still, I could feel it. And that is what I want to take the time to describe, “it”.

You see there seems to be a misconception about what “it”, depression, really is. So, I will start by telling you what it is not, or at least what it is not for me, right now. At this moment, though I am feeling the effects of depression, I do not feel sad. I am not dwelling or thinking of negative things in my life or any where else. I am not crying, I don’t feel despair, but there is this cloud hovering over me. An intangible entity, that I feel somewhat helpless to. “It” is just out of my grasp. Now true there are things that help. Medication is one of them. And for me it is a cocktail of medications that keep my neuro-transmitters in balance. Some anti-depressants, both nor-epinephrine and serotonin uptake inhibitors, and some anti-anxiety and others with both properties. I also see my psychiatrist on a regular weekly or bi-weekly basis, depending on the time of year or what is happening in my life. This is extremely helpful for me, because I find I need a safe place to talk about things and work them out. Just keeping things inside does not work for me. I am so fortunate to have an incredible psychiatrist who, though he is past retirement age, is willing to spend time with his patients to talk and listen.

Depression, at least clinical depression, is not about what is happening in one’s life, at least that is not the cause, though it may contribute to its manifestation. You see I have a really good life. I grew up in a good, stable home. My parents are still together, and as I child I never ever saw them fight. My family was not wanting for finances. We had good relationships with extended relatives. I was not physically or sexually abused. My husband is a sweet, kind gentle man, an excellent father to our children and a good provider. And while we don’t have the kind of money available to us that our parents had, we certainly are not lacking. My children are amazing. Not a minute’s trouble from either of them. I mean it, none. They both graduated high school, went on to Bible school and then on to University where they each got Bachelor’s degrees.

I graduated high school, worked for a couple of years and then went back to school and became a psychiatric nurse. I worked briefly, before becoming a mom and staying home with my baby, which was the plan. No problems! Still I developed depression. It probably began to manifest when I was about 7 years old, when my grandmother committed suicide, but it didn’t require any sort of treatment. Later, in my late teens it reared itself when I was under stress, such as exams. Finally, it began in earnest when I began taking the birth control pill. Within 9 months I was suicidal and came off them and things returned to normal, until I got pregnant with my second baby and it’s been a constant companion pretty much ever since, though it does abate at times.

Depression at this time was completely overwhelming. I did cry a lot back then. It was difficult just to get out of bed. I did feel despair and at one point tried to end my life. It was awful, but it still wasn’t because of something I did or didn’t do or something happening to me, it just was. Thankfully, the right cocktail of medications has alleviated to a great degree the sinking into the pit, and trust me, once you have been there you do not EVER want to go back.

There was one thing in my life though that did predispose me to depression. A long family history! My dad had manic depression, his mother had manic depression, her father was undiagnosed, though he clearly had mental health issues and his father had melancholy. So genetically there was a good likelihood that I or one of my siblings would deal with this illness. Not because of our environment. Not because of something we did or didn’t do, just because it was part of our bio-chemical makeup. And like some illnesses, some even within the same family are able to escape their effects and others are not. I was not, my brothers were. Though not all diagnosed, I would have to say that all of my dad’s siblings have been touched by either depression, anxiety and in some cases both to varying degrees. My grandmother and certainly at least two other siblings where affected by some sort of mental health issues and likewise her father as well. My great great grandfather was admitted to the insane asylum in 1891, back when depression was treated very differently than it is today. Can you imagine being admitted to hospital with melancholy and 20 years later dying in the same facility, never having been released? Back then they even called them inmates.

So the reason for my going over all of this is to try and give people insight into what depression is so that they can stop blaming, accusing, pointing fingers, making assumptions and the like about people with this illness. It is not self-inflicted or caused, it just is. And people with this illness are no less important than others, they simply face challenges that are different from what you may experience and so have to develop means to cope with what they have been dealt. Some do so more effectively than others, and this too is not entirely dependent on the person’s ability, but very often on the severity of the illness and the effectiveness of medical interventions.

Please be kind, think before you make judgments and especially before you say something that can’t be taken back,

Blessings, Jan

One of the things I taught my children very young was that they needed to decide what behaviour was acceptable in any given circumstance, before they found themselves in those circumstances. For example, an individual needs to decide whether or not stealing is acceptable before they are faced with the temptation to steal. Likewise, one needs to decide whether or not doing drugs, premarital sex, lying or any of a myriad of other issues that come up on life’s journey are acceptable.

In addition, we should whenever possible take the higher road so that when temptation comes if we fail to resist some but not all temptation, we are farther from violating our own consciences. For example, if an individual decides that premarital sex is not an option for them and they set the parameter that they will wait to kiss until they marry, if they do succumb to temptation, they have only kissed. Whereas if they have decided that everything except premarital sex is an option, succumbing to temptation, means they have violated their own conscience.

In light of the above I have created an Excel document for parents to go over with their children in an effort to help them make these decisions and to open up dialogue between kids and their parents. Kids often need guidance and they need to understand the consequences associated with their decisions. They also need to understand that one bad decision can lead to other poor decisions even those they initially considered “not an option”. For example, a kid might decide that underage drinking is an option, but they also need to understand that they then need to engage in additional behaviours such as lying and/or stealing to be able to do so and that early drinking is linked to a higher alcoholism risk.  National Institutes of Health.  As such, if becoming an alcoholic is not an option for them they may want to rethink whether or not underage drinking is an option for them. Parents might also want to discuss how drinking can put individuals at risk for encountering other things such as rape, drug usage, prostitution and many other things most people would not choose as possible options.

Please use discretion when using this document as it covers a wide variety of topics some of which are not appropriate for young children. That said, many are appropriate for younger children and all subjects should be discussed with your children before they are likely to have to face making these decisions on their own or under the duress of peer pressure or other factors.

Moral Decisions

Note: not all items listed are negative, some are just things that one needs to make decisions concerning and others are designed to open up conversations.

Let me know how it goes, Jan


Is there a right and wrong way to pray?

Yes and Yes!

If there wasn’t a right and wrong way to pray there would be no need to be taught how to pray.

Luke 11:1 (NKJV)

Now it came to pass, as He was praying in a certain place, when He ceased, that one of His disciples said to Him, “Lord, teach us to pray, as John also taught his disciples.”

Since John (the Baptist) taught his disciples how to pray and Jesus’ disciples asked Him to teach them how to pray and He proceeded to do so we know there is a right and wrong way to pray.

How NOT to pray

Matthew 6:5 (NKJV)

“And when you pray, you shall not be like the hypocrites. For they love to pray standing in the synagogues and on the corners of the streets, that they may be seen by men. Assuredly, I say to you, they have their reward.

What is an hypocrite?
Someone who: acts a part in a play; gives a pretense of piety; is a pretender.

What is hypocrisy?
To pretend to be what one is not.

Who are the hypocrites? Why are they hypocrites?

Matthew 23:14 (NKJV)

Woe to you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! For you devour widows’ houses, and for a pretense make long prayers. Therefore you will receive greater condemnation.

For example: Abortion, either it is right or it is wrong, should not be an issue of being politically correct, nor should one’s opinion fluctuate depending on with whom they are speaking. If one finds themselves on different sides of the issue depending on who they are speaking with, or to avoid controversy then hypocrisy is likely an issue.

Galatians 2:11-13 (NKJV)

11 Now when Peter had come to Antioch, I withstood him to his face, because he was to be blamed; 12 for before certain men came from James, he would eat with the Gentiles; but when they came, he withdrew and separated himself, fearing those who were of the circumcision. 13 And the rest of the Jews also played the hypocrite with him, so that even Barnabas was carried away with their hypocrisy.

Just because other people don’t see you do something does not mean you are off the hook. God sees everything!

Luke 12:1-3 (NKJV)

12“Beware of the leaven of the Pharisees, which is hypocrisy2 For there is nothing covered that will not be revealed, nor hidden that will not be known. 3 Therefore whatever you have spoken in the dark will be heard in the light, and what you have spoken in the ear in inner rooms will be proclaimed on the housetops.

Secrets rarely remain secret!


Are there conditions under which God does not hear our prayers?


Psalm 66:18 (NKJV)

If I regard iniquity in my heart, The Lord will not hear.

Isaiah 59:1-2 (NKJV)

Separated from God

59 Behold, the Lord’s hand is not shortened,
That it cannot save;
Nor His ear heavy,
That it cannot hear.
2 But your iniquities have separated you from your God;
And your sins have hidden His face from you,
So that He will not hear.

Little Christian Sins

Romans 12:3 & 9-18 (NKJV)

3not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think

Behave Like a Christian

9 Let love be without hypocrisy. Abhor what is evil. Cling to what is good. 10 Be kindly affectionate to one another with brotherly love, in honor giving preference to one another; 11 not lagging in diligence, fervent in spirit, serving the Lord; 12 rejoicing in hope, patient in tribulation, continuing steadfastly in prayer; 13 distributing to the needs of the saints, given to hospitality.
14 Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse. 15 Rejoice with those who rejoice, and weep with those who weep. 16 Be of the same mind toward one another. Do not set your mind on high things, but associate with the humble. Do not be wise in your own opinion.
17 Repay no one evil for evil. Have regard for good things in the sight of all men. 18 If it is possible, as much as depends on you, live peaceably with all men.

James 3:17-18 (NKJV)

17 But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, willing to yield, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality and without hypocrisy18 Now the fruit of righteousness is sown in peace by those who make peace.

Ecclesiastes 7:14-18 (NKJV)

14 In the day of prosperity be joyful,
But in the day of adversity consider:
Surely God has appointed the one as well as the other,
So that man can find out nothing that will come after him.
15 I have seen everything in my days of vanity:
There is a just man who perishes in his righteousness,
And there is a wicked man who prolongs life in his wickedness.

16 Do not be overly righteous,
Nor be overly wise:
Why should you destroy yourself?
17 Do not be overly wicked,
Nor be foolish:
Why should you die before your time?
18 It is good that you grasp this,
And also not remove your hand from the other;
For he who fears God will escape them all.

We don’t control what happens in our lives, so we shouldn’t take credit for the good or be overtaken by the bad. God is always in control.

This is a warning against religious conceit – legalism or false righteousness.


Does God always forgive us our sins, when we ask him to?


Mark 11:25 (NKJV)

“And whenever you stand praying, if you have anything against anyone, forgive him, that your Father in heaven may also forgive you your trespasses.”

This is referring to a deliberate refusal to forgive another.

1 John 1:8-9 (NKJV)

8 If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us. 9 If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.

2 Corinthians 2:5-11 (NKJV)

5 But if anyone has caused grief, …, you ought rather to forgive and comfort him, lest perhaps such a one be swallowed up with too much sorrow. 8 Therefore I urge you to reaffirm your love to him. 9 For to this end I also wrote, that I might put you to the test, whether you are obedient in all things. 10 Now whom you forgive anything, I also forgive. For if indeed I have forgiven anything, I have forgiven that one for your sakes in the presence of Christ, 11 lest Satan should take advantage of us; for we are not ignorant of his devices.

Proverbs 15:29 (NKJV)

The Lord is far from the wicked, But He hears the prayer of the righteous.

What is righteousness?

Righteousness of God, an absolute quality of moral standards;
Righteousness of man, a limited or relative quality, corresponding to a standard of rightness or obligations to God and or other persons

So then…if God only hears the prayers of the righteous AND

Romans 3:10-11 (NKJV)

All Have Sinned

10 As it is written:
“There is none righteous, no, not one;
11 There is none who understands;
There is none who seeks after God.

How do we become righteous?

Romans 4:1-3 (NKJV)

Abraham Justified by Faith

1 What then shall we say that Abraham our father has found according to the flesh? 2For if Abraham was justified by works, he has something to boast about, but not before God. 3 For what does the Scripture say? “Abraham believed God, and it was accounted to him for righteousness.”

Romans 4:5-8 (NKJV)

David Celebrates the Same Truth

5 But to him who does not work but believes on Him who justifies the ungodly, his faith is accounted for righteousness6 just as David also describes the blessedness of the man to whom God imputes righteousness apart from works: 7 “Blessed are those whose lawless deeds are forgiven, And whose sins are covered; 8 Blessed is the man to whom the Lord shall not impute sin.”

Romans 4:13-15 & 19-22

The Promise Granted Through Faith

13 For the promise that he would be the heir of the world was not to Abraham or to his seed through the law, but through the righteousness of faith. 14 For if those who are of the law are heirs, faith is made void and the promise made of no effect, 15 because the law brings about wrath; for where there is no law there is no transgression.

19 And not being weak in faith, he did not consider his own body, already dead (since he was about a hundred years old), and the deadness of Sarah’s womb. 20 He did not waver at the promise of God through unbelief, but was strengthened in faith, giving glory to God, 21 and being fully convinced that what He had promised He was also able to perform. 22 And therefore “it was accounted to him for righteousness.”

James 5:16 (NKJV)

16 Confess your trespasses to one another, and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The effective, fervent prayer of a righteous man avails much.

God does not release us to pray for others until we have cleaned up our own messes.

1 Peter 3:12 (NKJV)

For the eyes of the Lord are on the righteous, And His ears are open to their prayers; But the face of the Lord is against those who do evil.”

Pre-requisite to effective, fervent prayer

1 John 5:14-15 (NKJV)

Confidence and Compassion in Prayer

14 Now this is the confidence that we have in Him, that if we ask anything according to His will, He hears us. 15 And if we know that He hears us, whatever we ask, we know that we have the petitions that we have asked of Him.

What does it mean to pray according to God’s will?

Praying according to God’s will does not mean adding on a tag line, “according to thy will” it is a commitment to living one’s life according to the will of God…AND…it is an ongoing process, not a onetime event!

It is the PRAY-ER that conforms to the will of God not the prayer.

Praying in the will of God means being conformed to the will of God.

It would be great if we could always be conformed to the will of God with all known sins confessed so that we never prayed outside the will of God!

But that is not the case, we must continually take account of what we are doing and why we are doing it and make a conscious effort to take unconfessed sins to God in prayer.

As such, an effectual pray-er is someone who’s life is committed to the will of God and has set aside any and all personal agendas.

God’s perfect will does not mean a perfect life!

Extreme example:

Luke 22:41-42 (NKJV)

41 And He was withdrawn from them about a stone’s throw, and He knelt down and prayed, 42 saying, “Father, if it is Your will, take this cup away from Me; nevertheless not My will, but Yours, be done.”

God does outline for us some things that are always in His will…

2 Peter 3:9

The Lord is not slack concerning His promise, as some count slackness, but is longsuffering toward us, not willing that any should perish but that all should come to repentance.

1 John 5:14-15 (NKJV)

Confidence and Compassion in Prayer ]

14 Now this is the confidence that we have in Him, that if we ask anything according to His will, He hears us15 And if we know that He hears us, whatever we ask, we know that we have the petitions that we have asked of Him.

Philippians 4:6 (NKJV)

Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God;

Colossians 4:2 (NKJV)

Continue earnestly in prayer…

You may be familiar with praying A.C.T.S. (Adoration/Allegiance, Confession, Thanksgiving, Supplication/Submission) but I have added “F” for Forgiveness as per the Lord’s Prayer.

Luke 11:2-4 (NKJV)

So He said to them, “When you pray, say:
Our Father in heaven,
Hallowed be Your name.
Your kingdom come.
Your will be done
On earth as it is in heaven.
Give us day by day our daily bread.
And forgive us our sins,
For we also forgive everyone who is indebted to us.

And do not lead us into temptation,
But deliver us from the evil one.”


Adoration, Allegiance



Supplication, Submission


Lord tell me:

What do you want me to do?
Where do you want me to go?
How do you want me to do it?

Habakkuk 2:4 (NKJV)

4 “Behold the proud,
His soul is not upright in him;
But the just shall live by his faith.

1 Thessalonians 5:17 (NKJV)

17 pray without ceasing,

“When faced with making a decision:” by George Mueller

  1. Seek to get your heart into such a state that it has no will of its own with regards to a given matter. This puts us in a state where we are ready and able to accept God’s will.
  2. Do not leave the result to feeling or impressions.
  3. Seek the will of God through, or in connection with the Word of God.
  4. Take into account providential circumstances. These plainly indicate God’s will in connection with His Word and Spirit.
  5. Ask God to reveal His will aright.
  6. Through prayer, study of the Word and reflection, come to a deliberate judgment according to the best of your ability and knowledge and if your mind is thus at peace and continues after two or three petitions, proceed accordingly.

Matthew 18:20 (NKJV)

20 For where two or three are gathered together in My name, I am there in the midst of them.”

FINALLY with regards to learning to PRAY CORPORATELY

Corporate and Intercessory Prayer – Have you ever felt shy or inferior about praying? Especially after someone else has prayed a long and eloquent prayer?

There is nothing wrong with prayers that are long and eloquent as long as they are used appropriately. An example of the correct use of such a prayer is when one is asked to lead a group or congregation in prayer. But let’s delve further into prayer.

The 6 “S” Method by Evelyn Christensen in her book What Happens When Women Pray

  1. Subject by subject
  2. Short prayers
  3. Simple prayers
  4. Specific prayer requests
  5. Silent periods
  6. Small groups

Remember the story in Luke when Jesus was a boy of 12 years and Joseph and Mary had taken him to Jerusalem for the Feast of the Passover?

Luke 2:41-48

New King James Version (NKJV)

41 His parents went to Jerusalem every year at the Feast of the Passover. 42 And when He was twelve years old, they went up to Jerusalem according to the custom of the feast. 43 When they had finished the days, as they returned, the Boy Jesus lingered behind in Jerusalem. And Joseph and His mother did not know it; 44 but supposing Him to have been in the company, they went a day’s journey, and sought Him among their relatives and acquaintances. 45 So when they did not find Him, they returned to Jerusalem, seeking Him. 46 Now so it was that after three days they found Him in the temple, sitting in the midst of the teachers, both listening to them and asking them questions. 47 And all who heard Him were astonished at His understanding and answers. 48 So when they saw Him, they were amazed; and His mother said to Him, “Son, why have You done this to us? Look, Your father and I have sought You anxiously.”

And Jesus response to them?

Luke 2:49

New King James Version (NKJV)

49 And He said to them, “Why did you seek Me? Did you not know that I must be about My Father’s business?”

Well, I began meditating on this at the end of last year. And two thoughts came to mind;

  1. I want use my time here on earth living my life for Christ!
  2. What does it mean to be “About My Father’s business”?

So I began at http://www.biblegateway.com and skimmed the New Testament to find out what it means to be “about My Father’s business”. (Note: I am not talking about individual “callings” here but rather daily Christian living.) The following ten points are a summary of what I found and believe we as Christians are to be doing in order to be “about Our Father’s business”.

  1. Believing and following Him
  2. Sharing the Gospel
  3. Loving all people
  4. Praying without ceasing
  5. Forgiving others
  6. Studying the Word – putting on the whole armor of God
  7. Being watchful, alert to deceivers
  8. Obey God’s Word
  9. Serving with humility
  10. Thanking God always, for all things

Some scriptural references I found include:

Matthew 4:19
Matthew 5:16
Matthew 5:44
Matthew 6:20
Matthew 6:25
Matthew 6:33
Matthew 7:15, 16
Matthew 7:21
Matthew 9:10
Matthew 9:37, 38
Matthew 10:16
Matthew 10:27
Matthew 11:28
Matthew 12:39
Matthew 16:24
Matthew 18:21, 22
Matthew 18:35
Matthew 22:37
Matthew 22:39
Matthew 24:4
Matthew 24:42
Matthew 24:44
Matthew 25:21
Matthew 25:35, 40
Matthew 26:41
Matthew 28:19, 20
John 2:16
John 8:7, 11
John 8:31, 32
John 13:34
John 14:26
John 15:5
John 15:16
John 20:21
Acts 1:14
Acts 2:17-19
Acts 13:47
Acts 20:20
Romans 2:11
Romans 5:3, 4
Romans 6:13
Romans 8:26, 27
Romans 12
Romans 13:7-8
Romans 13:13
1 Corinthians 1:10
1 Corinthians 3:18, 19
1 Corinthians 6:12
1 Corinthians 10:13
2 Corinthians 6:14
2 Corinthians 8:7
2 Corinthians 9:7
2 Corinthians 12:10
Galatians 5:1
Galatians 5:16, 22, 23
Galatians 6:1
Ephesians 4:14
Ephesians 4:23
Ephesians 4:26
Ephesians 4:29
Ephesians 4:32
Ephesians 5:4
Ephesians 6:10-18
Philippians 2:3
Philippians 2:12
Philippians 2:14
Philippians 4:6, 7
Philippians 4:8
Colossians 2:8
Colossians 3:2
Colossians 3:8, 9
Colossians 3:12-15
Colossians 3:16, 17
Colossians 3:23
Colossians 4:2
Colossians 4:5
1 Thessalonians 2:12
1 Thessalonians 5:17
1 Thessalonians 5:19, 20
1 Thessalonians 5:21
1 Thessalonians 5:22
2 Thessalonians 3:13
1 Timothy 2:1,2
1 Timothy 2:8
2 Timothy 1:8
2 Timothy 2:15
2 Timothy 2:23
2 Timothy 2:24, 25
2 Timothy 3:16, 17
2 Timothy 4:2
2 Timothy 4:5
Hebrews 3:13
Hebrews 4:11
Hebrews 4:16
Hebrews 10:23-25
Hebrews 13:1-9
James 1:19
James 1:22
James 1:26
James 2:26
James 4:7, 8
James 4:10
James 5:13-16
1 Peter 2:2
1 John 3:9
1 John 3:23
1 John 4:1

I had forgotten that my youngest daughter’s work schedule changed, so I was surprised last Monday afternoon when she stopped in for an impromptu visit. She moved out on her own a couple of months ago, so I just don’t see her as much as I used to and treasure these visits. We didn’t do anything earth shattering; ran a few chores and went shopping at a local thrift store, but we both enjoyed our time together immensely.

This got me thinking about how God must feel when we have an impromptu visit with him. You know, when we just pop in for a casual conversation, to give praise or thanksgiving or to seek His guidance, direction or assistance. I’m sure He is as excited to spend time with us, as we are when our children spend time with us.

This in turn, got me to thinking about how we often believe that spending time with God, needs to be a formal affair. I’m certain that God loves any time we make Him part of our day; not just during church services and prayer meetings or prior to meals and bedtime. So, why not give God a shout as you go through your day. Invite Him along as you grocery shop, weed the garden, drive to work, or whatever it is you have planned for your day. I know my experience has been that the more time I spend talking to God, the better I am able to hear Him speaking to me and the more I enjoy my time with Him.

I always thought that it was impossible to forgive and forget until yesterday when my adult daughter said “Mommy, I’m sorry”.

Those words and her absolute contriteness and sincerity threw me for a loop. After all, at 26, she is an adult and really, I no longer have any say in how she chooses to conduct her life. Yet, she still chose to humble herself and apologize. Let me say too, that this was not an empty apology. She apologized, and then she acknowledged that she knew her dad and I didn’t arbitrarily make the rules we expected her to follow, but that it was because we love her and want only the best for her. She wasn’t angry or resentful, she felt regret even remorse.

Honestly, I was so taken by her coming to me and apologizing without my having even approached her about the offense that the event for which she was apologizing was forgotten. As such, instead of being focussed on her transgression and “teaching her a lesson”, I felt a swell of pride and even excitement. I thought, man this kid is mature, she really gets it!

Which in turn, led me to think that, that is how God must feel when we repent of our sins. He is happy that we get it! So much so that He forgets our transgressions and focusses on His love for us.

I think that too often we focus so much on the transgressions of others that we make it almost impossible for them to approach us and ask forgiveness. It’s like the discovery of and holding on to the offense is more important than seeing the individual turn and learn from their mistake, disobedience or whatever it was.

We all screw up, at one point or another. Only God is perfect! So, if He is willing to forgive and even feel pride, excitement and joy when we seek His forgiveness and sincerely repent of our sins, so much so, that He even forgets our transgressions I think we would be wise to follow His example.

Forgiving and forgetting is actually possible!

I have been hearing a lot lately about being “seeker sensitive” and was talking with a friend about it yesterday when God spoke to and through me. (I know it was him cause I simply would not have come up with this on my own!) What God said is that we are to be “Spirit Sensitive” and in doing so we will sense the needs of the seeker.


Jesus never told people what they wanted to hear, He told them what they needed to hear! He was kind, He was gentle, He was loving and He spoke the truth even when that was not what they wanted to hear. He didn’t sugar coat it, He didn’t dress it up as fun, He spoke simply, plainly, honestly, lovingly and they could accept or reject what He had to say. Their choice! And no matter what their choice He continued to love them. He didn’t gossip about them, He didn’t ostrasize them, He loved them and continued to lift them up to God in prayer to His heavenly Father.

Note: He loved them, not their sin!